This week’s article focuses on the subject of comfort … specifically as it relates to how we let it affect our life, in general. So the question would be “How comfortable are you with the life you’re living?” But before we delve into this, let’s differentiate between that which is comfortable and that which is familiar …
When we speak of something that’s familiar, I interpret this simply as something that repeats throughout our life so often that we’ve become accustomed to it. To put it another way, familiar can often just be ‘the devil we know.’
On the other hand, to me comfortable is something that is far more than familiar – it’s something that’s been evaluated and found to be acceptable, pleasurable or otherwise desirable. We can be familiar with something, even if it’s unpleasant … and we can still be decidedly un-comfortable with it.
Do You Believe In Your Own Potential?
So … it seems that many of us have a tendency to cling to our comforts. We like them – they make us feel safe and secure, and maybe even successful. But is this fact or fiction? Comforts can also become extremely self-limiting, and can actually prevent us from growing – particularly if that growth requires us to actually give up some of those comforts.
Comforts can lull us into a false sense of security, encouraging us to reject anything that resembles risk. But with never risking anything, we can easily fall into a rut … and the by-product of a rut can often be fear. This fear can take root, and before we know it, we see it being attached to things that were once part of our daily processes or activities – we become fearful of any kind of change; of making bad decisions; or of not living up to our dreams. So we instead abandon these things in exchange for … that old devil called comfortable.
Comforts Can Become Stifling …
As we live from day to day, we obviously mature and evolve. But in order to do this evolving, we typically have to make room in our paradigm for new ideas, new experiences, new insights or wisdoms. How shall we identify which thoughts or beliefs can be replaced with updated ones? And what happens when we encounter unexpected internal resistance to updates that could potentially deliver tremendous benefits to our life, but we’re conflicted because we’ve become entrenched in our comfort zone?
I’m not trying to give comforts a bad name … I enjoy my comforts as much as the next person. But it’s important to also realize that if we’re going to create a life of purpose and meaning – that life we’ve always dreamed of – we have to make sure our paradigm is up to date and accurately reflects and supports those desires. And in order to do that, we have to project those dreams into our future, rather than always clinging to the safety of our past. So, how open are you to embracing the wondrous possibilities of tomorrow?
How Willing Are You To Grow?
Nobody would begin construction on a new house without a blueprint to work from. Neither should we expect to build our best life without a plan. So, how are you preparing your path forward? Have you set goals? Do you know what comforts can be risked or sacrificed? What encouragement do you offer yourself daily to build up your confidence, strengthen your determination, and nurture your self-esteem?
We don’t need all the answers at once. We still have to allow our futures to develop, but we must also remember to acknowledge our progress. And even with all this, the most important ingredient in this strategy is to be kind and loving to ourselves as we move forward – patiently, forgiving ourselves when we falter – after all, we are only human.
I recently read that “… Just like in the eye of the storm, there is always comfort in chaos. Becoming aware of this, however, is your responsibility.” I think that sums it up rather nicely!
… as you consider this, remember to always focus on the Good Things in Life!